Are you listening?

The question “how did you do it?”  “How did you get better?” These questions have come up in many conversations lately.  So much so, I decided to write about it.

This is for the woman who is stuck in that place of WTF.  How did it get to this point?  Why is this happening to me?  Is this what my life is going to be like from here on out? Am I always going to feel so crappy? For the woman who is on her own personal wellness journey.  All of these questions were front and center for me at the beginning. All are fairly normal as well.  We go through a range of emotions when something painful or traumatic happens in our life.

I am going to share a little bit about how I answered the women who asked me these very questions over the past few weeks.

It all started to shift when I started listening.  Listening to my body.

Let me start by saying that being under the care of your physician and other health/wellness practitioners is a very important part of this puzzle. With that said, so much comes back to the question, “are you listening?”  Our bodies are sending us messages 24-7.  So many of us have forgotten how to listen or simply don’t take the time.  Deep down you know what is best for you and trusting that, trusting your intuition is key.

When I allowed myself to slow down and open up to what was true for me, I learned how to follow my inner voice and intuition.  I soon came to realize that it was me that knew my body best.  Not my doctor, or my wellness team.  Me.  

A huge part of my healing journey was going inward and listening to how my body felt throughout the day, which in and of itself was a HUGE challenge for me.  But like anything new, I practiced and over time it just became part of what I did. Full confession, I am a bit of a control freak and this required a whole lot of surrender.  Not only surrender in the sense of slowing down, but surrendering my anger, my grief, all the emotions that I was holding onto since getting diagnosed with Lyme. This is when I really started taking good loving care of myself, inside and out.  Because if we are not giving ourselves proper nourishment and self-care, we are not able to heal emotionally.  And vise versa, when we are not nourishing ourselves emotionally and being gentle with ourselves, we are not able to take good care of ourselves. So in turn, how can we expect our bodies to heal?

At first, I thought, “ok, I will follow my doctor's orders, take my medications and supplements, and eat healthy and everything will start to fall into place.”  Well, let's just say that didn’t work out too well.

I ask you, are you pushing your body to the point where it is starting to say no? Take a moment to think about this.  Be honest.  Perhaps it is starting to fail you in ways.  Many of the women I work with are in this very position. I am so grateful that I get to do this work with women who are struggling with challenges in their health and lives. They are, after all, a former version of me.  Here’s the thing, while I do provide a system of support and accountability, I give them tools to find what’s right for them. Truth be told, I can only take them as far as they are willing to go. It is up to them to do the internal work. I am there to lovingly guide and support them, but it’s up to them, to you, to do the work.

We do have the power within us to heal our own lives.  When we flow with life, rather than fight it, we start to bloom inside and out.  I think true wellness is about finding balance and taking care of ourselves on the inside and outside.  It has taken me years to get to where I am today, and I still have a lot to learn.  So, do not put pressure on yourself to turn things around overnight.

It is also very important to remember that this is not a one size fits all situation. There is no one diet, no one self-care practice that works for everyone. We are all very, very different. It's finding what works for you. I have mentioned it before, my experience in healing from Lyme has been my greatest teacher. My own personal journey has lead me to re-discover me.  And in doing so has allowed me to heal.  

It is about trusting the process, even in the most painful situations. True healing, no matter what you are healing from is a mind, body, spirit approach that includes nourishing food, self-care, breath work, relaxation, meditation, and a huge dose of self-love.

I share my stories with you in hopes that they are inspiring to any of you who are going through your own journeys of wellness and self-discovery.

Lots of love,