Do you ever feel like you are going through your days, weeks, years just getting by? AKA living in survival mode.
I was just surviving, not thriving. I had been living this way for so long, that I didn’t know any other way. It wasn’t until I got sick with Lyme disease that I realized that I had been treading water for a very long time. Don’t get me wrong, I had a fantastic life. However, it came down to how I was living my life.
Did you know another word for survival mode is stress mode? Did you know that your body can’t heal when in a stressed state?
I was going through my days, boucing from one thing to another, juggling all my daily responsibilities, trying to be super woman. Putting too much on my plate. Too much pressure on myself. All the while, feeling the stress, overwhelm and exhaustion building.
Sure, there were times that I slowed down a bit and craved a less stressful, slower paced, easeful life. But achieving that didn’t seem like a possibility for me back then. I had that “gotta keep up mentality.” It wasn’t until I was forced to stop that I started seeing things from a different perspective. Oh, and the fact that my dear doctor, acupuncturist and energy healer were telling me a gazillion times that “I needed to slow it down. I needed to reduce my stress or I wasn’t going to heal.”
I soon realized that most people, like myself were living in survival mode. The endless thoughts and worries swirling around. In regards to their health, their relationships, their children, their self worth, world events...the list goes on.
So there I was 41 years old at the time and I was ready to turn things around. There was work to be done.
Fast forward 3+ years later and it turns out there is a way to get out of stress mode, get your life back and live life to its fullest.
I am going to share with you some of the ways I did it...
Come up with a Plan
Write down what’s going on. Make a list. I love my lists! Prioritize your list. A lot of times it can be overwhelming to look at the big picture. It’s natural to want to fix everything at once. But doing that can get super confusing and then possibly lead to you not taking action.
Slow yourself down and do things step by step. This applies to anything, whether you are dealing with a specific health issue(s) or your life in general.
I talk about breathing a LOT! Once I started breathing correctly, I noticed a big difference. Most people don’t know how to breathe properly. Deep breathing, breathing from our belly signals the parasympathetic nervous system. This is our rest and digest response. Whereas, taking quick breaths from our chest turns on the sympathetic nervous system, our fight our flight response. It is one of the easiest ways to reset our nervous systems. It’s free and you can do it anywhere!
Change Your Outlook
Reframe the way you are looking at your life.
What is draining you? What is energizing you?
As I said earlier, I love my lists, so make one. There are many things we don’t realize until we see them in writing. Go over your list. Start making the changes you feel are necessary to bring more peace, ease, and balance into your life.
Listen to Your Body
Our bodies are sending us messages constantly. It’s just that most of us have forgotten how to listen. Slow it down. Be still and listen.
What do you need? What is your body craving?
What is that little voice inside your head saying to you? How are you talking to yourself? What are you telling yourself when you look in a mirror? When you gain weight? When your body isn’t doing what you want it to do? When you have a breakout or a break up? When you are worrying about what others will think? When you see wrinkles on your face? When you see cellulite on your legs? All of these things, all the negative self talk, is draining you. Holding you back from living a much more peaceful and vibrant life.
True health and longevity begin at the root of your relationship with self. So start giving yourself some love.
Release and Surrender
Easier said than done, I know. Boy do I ever. But it is not until this point when we release that which is not serving us and surrender and trust the process that things start to shift.
For me it was fear. Fear of will I ever get better? Fear of will I get worse? Fear of losing friends? Fear around my never ending medical expenses. Fear of all of the changes I was making and going to have to make in my life. And even today, I at times hav fears around the work I am doing. The list goes on.
The truth is, none of those fears were serving me. They were only clouding the vision I had for myself. Preventing me from healing and also my ability to help and serve others. And most importantly holding me back and not allowing my light to shine.
Be Your Own Healer
No matter what your situation. You are the only person that can save yourself.
Don’t take that the wrong way. Doctors, therapists, spouses, parents, siblings, friends... are all part of the process. However, you have to find the tools that work for you. And start using them consistently to pull yourself out of survival mode. You have to believe you can live a healthy, happy and vibrant life. You have to want it. Do you want to continue living everyday stressed out, just surviving? It’s kind of exhausting just thinking about it.
So my friends, start living your life. What lights you up? Go do that.
Go from just surviving to THRIVING.
Live your life and go enjoy the hell out of it!